You are not a passenger

Most men live their lives like an Uber ride.

They hop in, watch the scenery change, complain about the bumps. They check their watch, wondering why they haven't arrived yet. They spend life waiting for others to take them where they want to go then wonder why it takes so long to get there.

Life isn’t like that. There is no driver. If you aren’t driving, the car is drifting.

And drifting cars never end up at their desired destination.

Which brings me to Rule #1 of NO DRIFT:

Take Ownership.

You are not a passenger. You have agency.

The Drift loves the victim mindset. It loves the phrase: "It’s not my fault."

When you blame the economy, the boss, your past, the weather, you are handing over the keys. You are admitting you have no power. You are saying that getting better will only happen when someone else takes action, which means you will forever be stuck.

The Antidote is Agency.

Ownership isn’t about fault. It’s about responsibility. Life happens. People disappoint you, people make decisions that impact you, failures occur that are outside of your control.

You can’t control the event. You control the response.

The Passenger says: "My boss is a micromanager, I can't win." The Owner says: "My boss is anxious. I need to over-communicate to earn trust."

The Passenger says: "My wife is nagging me." The Owner says: "I haven't been leading at home."

The Passenger says: "I’m too busy to workout." The Owner says: "I’m not prioritizing my time well."

Ownership is terrifying because it burns your excuses. But it’s the only way to get your power back. Nobody can do the work to help you get better but you. Coaches can give you advice, trainers can give you instructions, but at the end of the day, the actual work is 100% up to you.

So, where are you playing the passenger? Where are putting the responsibility of growth on someone else?

It could be your finances, career, a relationship, health. Wherever the pain is.

These are lagging indicators. If you don't like the reflection, don't blame the mirror. Just take action.

You don’t permission. Stop waiting for the perfect time.

Get in the driver's seat. Take ownership.

Live above the line.

For you,
Kevin

P.S. If you haven’t yet, download the NO DRIFT Year-End Review below and work on it this week

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