What's driving you?

Most of your decisions are driven by fear. You just don't realize it.

I had a conversation a few years back with a mentor around some decisions we were having to make. It was a significant time for our business and our family. As we’re walking through the options he stops and asked a simple question. “Pain or gain?”

Confused, I asked what he meant. “What is driving your decisions? Are you making them out of trying to avoid pain, or are you making them out of what you can gain?”

It wasn’t something I had ever really thought about, but as I considered it, I realized most of my decisions are made out of fear.

Fear of losing something.
Fear of something being difficult.
Fear of not being good enough.

The goal? Avoid pain.

Fear often disguises itself as wisdom or logic or doing the “smart” thing. And yet true wisdom is knowing that we can’t become the man we were created to be if the thing that drives us is our fear.

Maybe you’re in the same boat. Maybe you don’t apply for the job because you don’t want the pain of rejection. Maybe you don’t move to the house you know you want and is better for your family because you don’t want the pain of moving. Maybe you avoid working out because you want to avoid the pain of realizing you’ve let yourself go.

What if instead you made decisions from the lens of gain?

“How will this benefit me?”
“What do I gain from doing this?”
“How will this get me closer to where I want to be?”

That’s a different game and it requires a different mindset.

📌 QUOTE OF THE WEEK "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." - Joseph Campbell

🧠 INSIGHT: You are either living your fears or your purpose. Make sure you know which one.

NO DRIFT CHALLENGE

Think about the last three significant decisions you made. Were they pain-based or gain-based? Write them down. Recognize the pattern. If they were driven by pain, what would you have done differently if you had been driven by gain?


I’d love to hear how you are fighting The Drift this week. Reply to this email to let me know. Even better, post it on Instagram and tag @no.drift. Let’s build a community of encouragement there.

CLOSING THOUGHT

Fear fights dirty but it’s how The Drift wins. Recognize it, deal with it, and live on purpose over protection.

For you,
Kevin

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