The agreements you don't remember making

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Most men aren't drifting because they're weak or lazy or unmotivated.

They're drifting because they've made agreements they don't even know they made.

You didn't sit down and sign a contract. You didn't consciously decide, "Yes, I'll live small. Yes, I'll play safe. Yes, I'll settle." But somewhere along the way, something happened. A failure. A comment. A loss. A moment in your childhood. And you agreed with it.

That agreement became a rule. That rule became a narrative. And that narrative became your ceiling.

It's not a knowledge problem. If information created transformation, every man with access to the internet would be living their best life.

Men aren't short on information. They're short on awareness of the agreements running in the background of their lives.

"I'm not a leader." "I can't change." "I'm just like my dad." "My best days are behind me." "I'm the guy who disappoints people." "It is what it is."

None of those are facts. They're agreements. And agreements shape identity. Identity shapes behavior. Behavior creates direction. Direction determines your destination.

So here's what matters: You can't outwork lies. You have to break them.

Start by identifying the agreement. What's the sentence you say under your breath? What's the thought that keeps coming back? What's the belief that feels "true" even though you've never actually challenged it?

Then ask where it came from. A moment? A wound? Someone else's opinion? Most limiting beliefs didn't start with you.

Then break it. Say it out loud if you have to (yes, I know it can be weird): "I'm not agreeing with that anymore."

And replace it with something better. Your mind always runs on a script. You get to choose which one. "I'm capable." "I'm responsible." "I can change." "My direction is my choice." "I don't drift, I decide."

The turning point for most men isn't a new strategy. It's a broken agreement.

You can fill your phone with screenshots, like we talked about last week. You can read the books. You can listen to every podcast. But nothing changes until you decide what you will and won't agree with anymore.

This week: Find one old agreement. Break it. Replace it. Live like the new one is true.

That's how you take your life back.

For you, Kevin

P.S. I'm working on the NO DRIFT Weekly Standard - a system for men who want to take control back. Before it's finished, I created a Weekly Scorecard as a free test. Want to try it and give feedback? Just reply.

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