He was who he said he was

Our oldest son, 17, had a friend whose dad passed away a couple of weeks ago. A Highway Patrol Trooper, killed in a freak accident on the highway while off duty.

Two kids left for school that morning and had a father. A wife left the house and had a husband. By mid-morning, that was no longer true.

It's a reminder that our days are not guaranteed. They're numbered, and we don't know the number. Which means how we live this day, as cliché as it sounds, really is all that matters. It's part of why last week's message on Kairos time is so important.

But it's also been a reminder about legacy. About the moments and memories we're creating, and how the people who matter most will talk and think about us when we're no longer here.

A guy spoke at our church years ago. Part of his story was that his dad had been killed by a drunk driver when he was a teenager. He remembered his mom and family having to go through all of his dad's stuff. What he came away with was this: his dad was who he said he was. No secrets, no inconsistent words and values. He actually lived what he preached. It was a challenge to him and his brothers to live the same way.

These are the things that keep me up at night as a man, husband, and dad. They're why I care about this little side project. About helping men come alive, live above the line, and unlock their potential. We don't know how long we have, which means urgency isn't optional.

The Challenge

Don't just think about how you want to be remembered. Get specific.

Pick one person this week - your spouse, your kid, a sibling. Ask yourself: if they had to go through your life tomorrow, would what they find match the story you tell about yourself?

If the answer makes you uncomfortable, good. That's the area to work on. Pick one thing this week that pulls your life closer to that story.

You're writing your eulogy right now, every day, whether you're paying attention or not.

Today is all you have. Own what's now.

Live above the line.
For you, Kevin

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