Five Drifts
Most guys I sit down with eventually say some version of the same thing.
"I'm doing fine. But something feels off."
Solid job. Decent marriage. Kids he loves. Good enough financially. By every external measure he's fine. And yet. Something is quietly off and he can't put his finger on it.
Most of the time, the answer is drift. He's stopped choosing in some area of his life and never course corrected. That’s why I started this whole NO DRIFT project.
Drift isn’t just one thing, it can be many things. It can hit us in a variety of areas. When I ran a survey of men last year, the same areas kept showing up. The body. The home. The soul. The inner climate. The man himself.
Most men aren't drifting in all five at once (I think that’s what they call a mid-life crisis or a crash-out). There's usually a dominant one. An area that has been ignored that is making everything else feel off. But if we don’t get specific, we can’t get better.
Indeed, the safest road to Hell is the gradual one - the gentle slope, soft underfoot, without sudden turnings, without milestones, without signposts.
Over the next five weeks I'm going to walk through each one. What it looks like, how it sneaks in, what it costs you and the people around you, and how to start moving back the other way.
The five:
Health Drift. The body you used to have. Discipline traded slowly for comfort.
Relational Drift. The roommate phase with your wife. The kids who get the leftovers. The friendships that faded because life got busy.
Spiritual Drift. Coasting on momentum that ran out years ago. Conviction reduced to theory.
Mindset Drift. The inner climate. Background noise that wasn't there in your twenties and now it never quite turns off.
Self-Leadership Drift. The deepest one. The man who leads everyone else and forgot how to lead himself.
Things like career and finances can easily fall under some of these categories, but are usually a symptom and not the actual problem.
The Challenge
Before next week, take 60 seconds and answer one question for me: which of these five is the biggest pain point in your life right now?
Which area of DRIFT are you struggling with the most right now?
Be honest (it’s anonymous). And maybe it’s another area I missed. If so, what would you add? (just reply to let me know)
Then ask yourself, what would things look like in that area if I was living intentionally? What would that version of me doing that I’m not currently doing?
Today is all you have. Own what's now.
Live above the line.
For you, Kevin
Thanks for reading this. Share it with anybody you think would find it useful. And as a reminder, NO DRIFT is not mine it is ours. I want to know what you think, what you want to hear about, what you are learning. All feedback is welcomed.